How to Successfully Move Out of Your Parent’s House in 60 Days
What’s holding you back from the adventure to move out of your parent’s house?
I get it, I love my parents too, but there was no way I was staying in my parent’s house after high school.
As soon as my fall semester of college started, I had flown the coop.
My Moving Out to College Checklist (few years ago)
√ Independence – CHECK!
√ Freedom – CHECK!
√ Mom crying – CHECK!
– Find a cute girl to do my laundry – IN PROCESS! (What!?! I am being honest!)
After I left home for college, I did not live with my parents more than a few nights on occasion. I was determined to make it. It was sink or swim.
However, I understand the decision, just like the other millions of Millennials, to stick around with your parents a bit longer. I get it. I even married one of those millions who lived with their parents after college.
But still, aren’t you even a bit curious what life would be like on your own?
Millennials Living at Home is Justified
You’re completely justified in your reasoning. With the financial burden you and the rest us Millennials having to endure in today’s society—it’s tough. You’re probably thinking about student loans, the lack of great jobs in the job market, and the cost of living.
These common reasons are justified. Your living at home is completely justified.
Not to forget the other reasons causing young adults to move back to their parent’s house. There are many adults in their 20s going through divorces, single parenting, having some serious illness, and many other circumstances. All reasons justifying a move back home.
Bottom line, I get your reasoning for wanting to live with your parents as an adult.
BUT…
You Still Want to Move Out of Your Parent’s House
I am going to assume, you still have the itch to fly the coop though, right? You love your parents too, but you want the freedom. You want to be able to experience the independency of living on your own.
Every person entering adulthood has this itch, but is the itch strong enough?
How badly do you want to move out?
What if I told you that I could guarantee your ability to move out of your parent’s house in 60 days or less?
STOP!!
Don’t go there! Don’t start giving me your reasons why you can’t! Think differently!
Just answer the question, what if I told you that I could guarantee your departure from the rents in 60 days or less?
You ready for the explanation?
Plan to Move Out of Your Parent’s House in 60 Days
Obviously, I can’t go all into this, but the following 4 steps should get you going. Before you dive into the plan though, you must verify a few items about your plan.
Your plan must be wise. If the plan does not qualify as wise, adjust the plan.
Do not abandon the plan, just adjust until it hits these 3 wisdom qualifiers.
3 Wisdom Qualifiers
1 – Financially-Wise – Do not use this as an excuse to not move out though. Everyone can come up with their financial justification to not moving out. Instead look at your move out of your parents as an investment. You are investing in your development. Moving out to party and hang out with your friends is not a financially-wise move. The plan to move out has to financially-wise to work successfully.
2 – Developmentally-Wise – How will your plan position yourself to grow, develop, and mature into adulthood? Not every move into your own place is a developmentally-wise decision. I have made plenty of developmentally-unwise moves in my young adult life. Check your plan.
3 – Futuristically-Wise – It must make sense for your future. This wise check is tied to the first two as well. Again, your move into your own place is an investment. When you live on your own, you want to learn responsibility, integrity, and all the many other skills associated with living outside of your parent’s house. Think 5 years down the road. Is your plan positioning you for the future? What is your future?
4 Main Steps To Move Out of Your Parent’s House in 60 Days (Cliffs Notes Version)
Step #1 – Find Your Motivation. (5 Days) You have to discover why you want or need to move out. The discovery of reason will be the backbone to your move. If there is no reason or a lack of justifiable reasons, you won’t move. And don’t just think freedom. Think strategically. What will your move do for you? Find the motivation through your vision into the future and own it. Do some soul searching.
Step #2 – Commit To The Action. (2 Days) Commitment will be one of the first skills you will learn in the process of moving out. In order to move out, you must commit to the move. Commit to the motivation, the plan, and the execution. This commitment must be laced with determination and conviction. Do not waver on your commitment. If you really want it, commit to a date, budget, and action.
Step #3 – Plan It Out. (7 Days) Planning will be crucial. If you do not have a plan, you will not move out. Everyone I have coached, taught, and interviewed about this topic told me they moved out once they had a plan. If you do not plan out the move, the budget, and the process, you will not go any where except downstairs to have your mom do your laundry again. Stop letting your mom do your laundry. (Confession, I still went home to “let” my mom do my laundry even when I didn’t live at home.)
Step #4 – Get Your Wingman and Execute. (<44 Days) Every great and significant move in life requires a partner. You need someone to come alongside of you to help you execute your plan. Whether it be a coach, mentor, or friend, get someone.
However, do not and I repeat, DO NOT, assign your parents as your wingman. Remember, you are moving out and you need others helping besides your parents. Now, you can still have your parents assist in some ways, but do not make them your sole person to partner with. They have a biased opinion, good or bad, it is biased. Get your wingman to assist on executing on the plan. Have routine check ups and meetings to stick to the plan.
Avoid The Obstacles
You are probably encountering all the excuses in your head right now. There are a few that potentially could halt you from moving out in 60 days.
1 – Financial. You do not have enough money to move out on your own, right? It is pretty simple really. Get more roommates. Moving out on your own doesn’t mean you need to live on your own.
Get as many roommates you need to make it happen. But choose your roommates wisely. Remember, developmentally-wise. If you don’t make enough money, go make more money. You might be surprised what it would cost you to live on your own.
2 – Parents. You might have parents that do not want you to move out. In this case, you need to break off any dependency preventing you from moving out.
If they are paying your bills, pay them yourself. If they are making decisions for you, make your own decisions.
***KEY POINT*** Breaking dependency off from your parents doesn’t mean the breaking of a relationship, but rather the graduation of a parent-child relationship to parent-adult child relationship.
Those are really the two major obstacles standing in the way. The bottom line is if you want to move out of your parent’s house, you can in the next 60 days. Notice the key word there was WANT. You must have the motivation to move out.
***CLOSING THOUGHT***
If your primary reason for staying at your parents is to save financially (the most popular reason), you really need to rethink your reasoning. Moving out develops character and soft skills you cannot learn while under your parents roof. In essence your saving of money is also costing you development. What has more value, development or finances.
So instead, maybe you should be asking, “What developmental skills will you not possess if you stay at home with your parents?” Moving out is difficult no matter what. Whether you are 19 years old or 32 years old, the move out on your own is difficult.
BUT…
If you don’t move out, you could be robbing your investment of development for ease and comfort. Venture out and experience a new path of life.
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